1.Remember
this is a date for your partner also. They
are also going to be nervous and worried
whether they are doing/saying the “right
thing”. Be yourself, and encourage your
date to do the same. Dates are all about
finding out about the other person, if you
are both on your “best” behavior, the real
you wont be able to shine through. So relax
and be yourself.
2.Find
out in advance where you’ll be going. Try
and take a trip past there and see what
people are wearing so that you know you’ll
be dressed right. One of the worst fears
on getting prepared for a date is in knowing
what to wear. Whilst your partner might
not be too worried about whether you’re
dressed right, you wont relax if you feel
you are over or under dressed for the evening.
Doing a little investigation work beforehand
takes the worry and guesswork out of choosing
your clothes.
3.On
a similar note to clothes, don’t wear new
shoes! You may think that all you’ll be
doing is walking from a car to a restaurant
and back again, and so your brand new 3
inch stiletto heels with the tiny straps
across the front will be perfect for a fancy
restaurant – but what if your date wants
to dance? Or invites you for a moonlit stroll?
The shoes might not turn out to be such
a great idea! So think ahead, and give the
new shoes a miss on this occasion!
4.Plan
ahead on topics you can talk about. There
are few things worse than a dinner date
where no-one has anything to say and so
you sit in an awkward silence, each waiting
for the other to find something you can
discuss. Make a list and commit it to memory.
If the conversation starts to falter a little,
choose one of the topics from your list
and restart the dialogue. The more you talk
to your date, the more you find out – if
you remember to stop talking once in a while
and listen of course!
5.If
you are dating with a hope of finding a
permanent partner, then remember to use
the date as a fact finding mission! Find
out what your date likes, what he dislikes,
what his views are on social issues etc.
Don’t get into any big religious or political
debate! This isn’t the time or the place.
But just gently lead the conversation around
to things that are non-negotiable issues
for you and lightly brush over the surface
to see what views he may hold. Once you
have a feel for what he believes in, you
can explore this further at another occasion
– unless what you uncover on the surface
is enough for you to call it a day with
this particular date and continue your search!
6.The
end of a date is always a bit tricky. What
to do? Is it ok to sleepover? Do you have
to kiss your date? In this day and age,
this should no longer be a question of convention.
This is completely your decision. You should
do what feels right for you. If you want
him to stay overnight, then invite him!
If you don’t want him to kiss you, make
the first move and make it clear that you
don’t want personal space invaded. Don’t
make your mind up before you even leave
the house. Enjoy the evening and see where
you’d like it to end. If you’re having dinner,
take a trip to the ladies room between the
desert course and the coffee, have a few
moments to yourself and decide how you want
the rest of the evening to go if it’s left
in your hands. Your date may of course may
not want to do anything more than put you
in a cab, but if that’s not the case, then
you decide what you would like to happen
and take it from there.
7.The
last piece of advice I have for you, is
to have fun! Dating shouldn’t feel like
a chore. Something you have to get through
so you can move onto the good stuff! Dating
should be a time of exploration, and of
meeting new people. A time of learning about
them, and perhaps discovering something
of yourself along the way. Enjoy it!
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